Elisabeth Marielle Roberts: November 2012

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ENFJ personality type.

Representing approximately 5 percent of all people, people with the ENFJ personality type are great leaders, distinguished by the unshakable faith that others want to follow them. Usually this is exactly what happens as the main trait of the ENFJ personality type is their extraordinary charisma. ENFJs also greatly appreciate the cooperation and assistance of other people and are eager to offer their own cooperation wherever possible.ENFJs pay a lot of attention the needs of other people and often believe they are responsible for other people’s emotions – this behaviour can even complicate their relationships if the ENFJ is not careful. This personality type radiates leadership qualities, such as concern and willingness to help, so those who need support often turn to the ENFJ – and usually receive the help and guidance they need. However, this kind nature can sometimes turn against the ENFJ once they become overloaded with requests for assistance – ENFJ personality types feel great discomfort and guilt if they are forced to refuse requests of this nature.ENFJ are especially vulnerable due to their tendency to idealise interpersonal relations. It is nearly impossible to meet such standards and ENFJ friends may feel inferior knowing that they cannot achieve that ideal. On the other hand, expecting the best can be considered one of the most important leadership traits – and even though ENFJ may be somewhat idealistic (thanks to the NF combination), they are also very tolerant, uncritical and truly reliable people. ENFJs enjoy communicating with others and consider this an essential personality trait. As a result, ENFJs often get very surprised or even offended when they learn that not everybody (e.g. strong introvert types) shares this attitude. However, this rarely happens, as ENFJs are talented and highly intuitive speakers, very adept at communicating face to face. Naturally, someone with the ENFJ personality type is likely to have a great impact on people, as they are eager to express their opinion, no matter how large the group is.This personality type has an unusual ability to recognise and “translate” other people’s feelings, “absorbing” their characteristic traits, emotions and value systems. This is a very potent gift, but it is also dangerous, as the ENFJ can sometimes unwittingly take on other people’s problems, as if they were their own. ENFJ personality traits also tend to award this type with amazing imitation skills.ENFJs should take advantage of their strong intuition as it is one of their strongest personality traits, but it is advisable to consult a friend with a dominant T trait when it comes to making logical or long-term decisions. On the other hand, ENFJ personalities can easily make decisions based on their feelings – they are usually able to recognize other people’s motives, hidden or not, with amazing accuracy.ENFJs are quick learners, able to instantly recognise the big picture in many situations. In addition, they are great entrepreneurs who can easily cope with numerous responsibilities or projects – this is likely to result in many fruitful opportunities.

ENFJ strengths:Very adept at feeling other people’s thoughts and motivesGood communication skillsAbility to motivate and inspire other peopleSparkling sense of humour, dramatism, energy and optimismGood money management skillsAbility to move on after a romantic relationship fails (but ENFJs are likely to blame themselves for this)Loyalty and dedication – ENFJ seek lifelong relationshipsDesire to seek “win-win” situations wherever possibleDesire to meet the needs of othersENFJ weaknesses:Tendency to be overwhelmingly caringTendency to control and / or manipulateToo little attention to their own needsTendency to be critical of different opinions or viewsRisk of “faux pas” in certain social situationsVery high susceptibility to conflicts, tendency to avoid resolving the underlying issuesTendency to blame themselves when something goes wrong or underestimate themselves when things are going smoothlyInflexibility in some areas due to a clear value system.

Elisabeth Marielle Roberts

Saturday, November 3, 2012

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